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Brandon Gandy
Brett Allen Gandy
May 20 1980 - March 12 2006

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11-21-2014 12:36 PM -- By: darlene castillo,  From:  

03-13-2014 3:36 AM -- By: mom,  From:  

everyone has gone to bed and i am sitting here again trying to quiet my mind and try to find some peace! we visited your gravesite took flowers and sat and talked but to me son you are not there! you are at home you are in brandon you are in brock you sooooo are in bailey (: you are in aidan and ashlyn and they never even got to meet you, you are forever in me and dad but you also stole such a big part of my heart and soul when you left that even though you are such my pride and joy you are also so much of my eternal pain and heart ache ): Brett my son this day is tragic and so empty because you filled our lives with so much laughter, talent , wisdom, and love, i miss you dearly <3

03-10-2014 9:41 AM -- By: ,  From:  

I miss YOU so very much

03-10-2014 3:46 AM -- By: mom,  From:  

ok ok its not that day it coming up but in truth....it is every day and i cant stand it ! Brett the holidays have come and gone the new year has begun and now the dreaded month that comes that only makes me have pain suffering and regrets! 8 years and i want it all to stop the horrible bad dream of losing YOU!  Yep  its just me again wishing somehow i could just be with YOU! NOW! No more waiting until we meet again , i want to be with you NOW! I so need you it is so overwhelming to continue this journey and i get so tired and you know i never have had patiences! so the only thing i can do is hope it comes soon very soon so i can tell you i am sorry i love you and please forgive me!!!!!!  i have so much to tell you and share with you! Brandon needs you now more than ever! Brock  could really use your advise and Bailey just simply needs you to be her big brother and suport her talents and events that you would enjoy!Dad is really going through alot and wishes his whole family could just come together and be ONE and me well we know i am just broken and have such a heavy heart that i dont know if my existances is even neccessary! so as i type and try to make sence the only thing that i can relate in black and white is my pain of your absence and my eternal love for YOU ! May some how you know this son! i love you Brett with all heart  <3


03-12-2013 10:48 PM -- By: mom,  From:  

wow here we are again ! groundhog day in my mind it plays over and over like a movie reel that keeps playing the part of the movie you wish you could just delete!!!!! I dont like going to your gravesite everyone else visits and finds peace not me it is a slap wait no a punch in the face nope thats not it either its like a big rig truck running you over and you are being dragged and keep wishing you could be let free!!!! yep it is horrible this day is sooooo sad! i want to wake up from it all and just call you and hear ur voice i just want you to walk in the front door, i want to smell you and feel you and take it all in!!!!!! i miss you horrificially i need you in our lives! your family misses you ! but son on this day what i want most is not for my peace to come but i take heart in the peace you are in!!!!!!! life is going on but my life will never be the same ! i love you and cant wait to hold you in my arms someday and tell you that again!!!!! xoxoxo

05-20-2012 5:18 PM -- By: Duwayne Johnson,  From: father  

Happy Birthday.....

05-19-2012 1:59 PM -- By: d.j.,  From: dad  

happy 32nd birthday.......dad

04-06-2012 11:34 PM -- By: ,  From:  

hi its your father.......this is the first time writing. not that i havent wanted too, son there are so many wonderful memories of you and great stories i tell to this day.

   but the one most that i can never forget and relive over and over? is hearing the words NO PARENT should ever hear.....that you were gone.my families life changed forever, your mother is the love of my life, she misses you and longing just to tell you how much we love you. bailey talks about you sometimes and was very excited that she had her first dream about you and you communicated to her.

  brock, brandon there men they dont share feelings, but i see into there pain,i want you back son, you were a great son, i remember talking with just before it all ended.....i wish i could have done something. i miss you every moment of everyday....your mother and me were out for lunch today......someone wanted by us...i looked twice, i asked your mother a few moments later. why did you do a double take of that guy?

  did he remind you of brett? yes, i started to cry i see and hear you constantly. you are missed more than you could have ever imagined,i love you son, i know you are with grandma janet shirley grandpa dallas and grandma ruby. and heavenly father.......i miss you, i love you, and speak your name alot, you will never be forgotten. sorry if nothing makes sense , i am a man, i cant stop crying and wish i coud get into that delorin car and turn back time.......til we meet again son, i love you dad

03-12-2012 8:22 PM -- By: mom,  From:  

#6 and they still lie to this day.......Brett it gets harder and harder time does not heal son, time just passes and memories are still thought of but you are missed more and more! spent the day with the family in hollywood yesterday celebrating your life not your death.....but the minute we got off the freeway at hollywood blvd exit my heart sank and all those sicking feelings over took me once again.....i wasnt going there to see you, i was going there to see all the things that remind me of you....but the YOU wasnt there.....although as i walked the streets i kept thinking i would see you in the crowds or hear your voice or laugh......nope just another heart breaker and emptiness that is a reminder of my loss.  my first born my son my life.......i am glad you chose me to be your mom and know i didnt do everything right as a parent but i know that you made me a better person for letting me share your spirit and how i long to be in that moment again....i love you son my son my joy and my star    Brett (with two tt"s)

05-20-2011 6:24 PM -- By: JT,  From:  

Happy Birthday Brett!

03-08-2011 10:40 PM -- By: your mom,  From:  

Nope, not easier just harder! Who said time heals everything, well not for me it is as painful as can be! Sometimes I think it hurts even more!

We are trying to be more positive though, we laugh, and talk and remember things that make us smile.  Then in the dark of the night I just cry! 

I often still think maybe its not real that maybe just maybe I will run into you, I even look for you sometimes!

But on March 12, 2011 we are going to Disneyland, do things you loved to do, we are going on Haunted Mansion ride first, even though it wont be decorated like "The Nightmare Before Christmas" thats when you loved it most!

We will visit you at the gravesite, but I always feel so empty there, I feel you most at home, I dont like going there, it just reminds me that you are not HERE!!!!!

You are so missed, you are still so needed in my life and your family's. Your brothers miss you, your sister adores you and your dad and I ache for you! Gosh I wish your nephew and niece could have only had the time to be with you, they are so animated! Aidan does things that remind us of you and Ashlyn is a princess you would be head over heals for them!

Son, everyday I wish I could just pick up the phone and hear your voice, I miss the sound, I miss you so much.

I love you and want to change this situation, and I cant ,you know what a control freak I am so it is difficult to put in Gods hands, but I do, and I am mad, and I argue with him but in my heart I know you are at peace thats what you wanted, and I pray everyday, thats what you received cause I cant find mine!!!!! Love You For Eternity xoxoxoxo

05-11-2010 12:08 AM -- By: S,  From:  

Brett, you're on my mind today. Thought I'd reach out and say hello.

03-03-2010 7:45 PM -- By: your mother,  From:  

it's coming up again, the day i wish i could go back in time and change or at least make stand still!

i miss you, i hurt for you,, i need you to be here with us, to experience everything that you have missed your family, your friends. EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE!!!!!!!

i still pretend that someday you will just pick up the phone and call me and that it was all just a mistake.

brett, you truely made me a better person, having you as my son was a blessing unlike any other, things were sometimes challenging but we grew from them and some how i am trying to learn from this, this loss, this void, this absence in my heart that i can and will not fill. 

i love you so much, words are not enough, we will visit your grave site on this 4th year anniversary and pray that you will always know of our love for you and son i hope you are truely at peace now, thats the only thing that keeps me sane, hoping you have found that place in which you rest and your burdens are lifted and you are with grandma janet, grandpa dallas, grandma ruby, aunt shirley and all those there with you!  i'm sure you are putting on a "good show" for them all.  MY STAR FOR TIME AND ALL ETERNITY!      WITH DEEP LOVE AND MUCH PAIN YOUR MOM       XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

02-04-2010 3:33 PM -- By: Carmen,  From: Pasadena  


Hello Love, I miss you more than words could ever express! Not one day goes by when I don't think of you, there's not a moment when I don't think "what if".  It's been so long since I've seen your beautiful face. Love, I'm starting to forget. I almost forgot how we even met and I struggle to remind myself of every moment we had. What saddens me the most is that I have almost forgot your laughter and the sound of your voice! How I long for you! You know that place between sleep and awake, that is when we are together and it is as if you never left and that is where I'll always love you! Ever thine ever mine ever ours!

03-12-2009 7:53 PM -- By: ,  From:  

I love you, Brett

02-09-2009 7:42 PM -- By: Anon,  From: Glendora  

 Have been thinking about Brett a lot today.  Wish I could have stayed closer - and said more.  From the moment I met him it was fun and brilliant.  I miss you Brett.

04-02-2008 4:58 PM -- By: Amistica (Tica) Meyers,  From: Glendora, CA  

I miss your amazing personality.  Thanks for making my high school years fly by with so much laughter.

           & nbsp;            ;          Your friend always, Tica

           & nbsp;            ;           &nb sp;           & nbsp; 


03-11-2008 4:13 PM -- By: ,  From:  

two years, and I still think about him all the time.  I'm praying for you and your family.  I know the pain doesn't go away, and I want you to know that he and you are definitely not forgotten

02-11-2008 9:29 AM -- By: Kathy Guggenmos,  From:  

I did not know Brett well. I think maybe I saw him once since our family moved to Texas in 1990 when he was only ten. Still, I am so sorry to hear that he died so young and left so many in sorrow.

06-05-2007 3:55 AM -- By: Duwayne,  From: O.C. Ca.  

Brett, I think about you all the time.

A part of me is missing, with you gone.

We all miss you very much, everybody!

Absolutely EVERYBODY !!!

Grandma Ginny, Grandpa J.J., Uncle Terry and Myself from our side of the family.

And you know your mom and all her side misses you beyond belief.

You missed the wedding of the century.

Monique & Brandon's wedding was first class and was flawless.

It will go into the history books as the perfect wedding of the millenium.

You would have been proud and very impressed.

We know you were there in spirit.

Now you have a new sister in law AND a beautiful nephew.

We ALL miss you and it's a matter of time until we're all back together.

If there's anything you want me to do for you, while I'm here, just get word to me and I'll handle it.

Saying, I MISS YOU is such a gross under statement. It's the only word I know that comes close.

I miss you, Love Dad

05-21-2007 6:04 AM -- By: Dad,  From:  


Today is your 27th birthday.

I miss you. We all miss you, we miss your company, frindship, companionship and love.

Since you been gone you left a huge void that can't be filled.

Some day, some time we'll be together again, until then we'll be missing you and thinking about you.

I feel responsible for the way things turned out. I hope you don't hate me.

Love Dad

04-17-2007 2:14 AM -- By: George Kypreos,  From: Los Angeles, CA  

I was saddened to hear this news, a year too late. The world lost a good man with a generous spirit. He will be missed.

03-12-2007 12:02 PM -- By: Beckie,  From: SLC, UT  

Thinking of you-

03-07-2007 12:40 AM -- By: Duwayne,  From: O.C. Ca,  


In a few days it will be an entire year since your passing.

Even while I type on the keyboard to write this message, I can't believe your gone.

If I had knowledge of the tragic event 359 days ago. I could of and would of acted on that information and all us would not be in this situation.

I miss you beyond words. One of the thoughts that help me through the rough times, is some day we will all be together again.

I think of you as a baby, toddler, young boy then as a grown man. I think of you as a fine actor with aspirations of making it in motion pictures.

I picture a star on Hollywood blvd. with your name on it. When I listen to the song Celluloid Heros, I think of you. I think the song was written for you and about you. It really hits a nerve, makes me well up.

You'll always be a "Star" to me.

With Eternal Love, Dad

01-30-2007 11:26 AM -- By: Gene Shoulders,  From: Upland, CA>  

Brett- your smile is a gift in the memories of us all- like it we cannot forget you. You are missed.

01-29-2007 2:53 PM -- By: Melissa,  From: Glendora  

Oh man Brett...i can't believe you are gone. i always loved you so much, you were a breath of fresh air at GHS, a total original and a complete sweetheart. I remember the last time we spoke a few years back...i tried to call you a couple of years ago, your number was dead but i always knew i'd hear about you again. This isn't the news i ever expected. I'm so sorry honey--the world will be a little bit dimmer without you in it.

i hope you've found peace in heaven. you will always be in my heart. xxox melis

01-29-2007 12:39 PM -- By: Beckie Felt,  From: Salt Lake, UT  

Brett, I cannot describe the sadness and shock I am feeling. I remember a moment we shared in the Little Theatre, we had a conversation about nothing important, but it was good, your charismatic spirit is something I have never forgotten. Clearly we didn't stay in touch, since it's been almost a year, but I want you to know I have thought of you often and will continue to think of your sweet, fun spirit.

To the Gandy & Johnson Family: My deepest sympathies to you as we come up on the one year mark. My thoughts and prayers are with you always.

01-28-2007 8:14 PM -- By: Heather (Felt) Jackson,  From:  

Brett inspired many. He will be missed very much.

10-12-2006 2:07 AM -- By: Duwayne A. Johnson,  From: O.C. Ca.  

It's the 12th of October, it's been 7 months to the day Brett left us.

The realization of him being gone I still can't fully accept.

I really miss him.

The Brett I knew was so full of life and animated and some times he could be in a funk and be down and out.

Up or down I always liked being around him or have long talks with him on the phone.

He made me feel like a dad. Although I didn't raise him, we got re-aquainted in his late teens. We had a lot in common and he was amazed about how much I was like him.

He felt like he had an allie, and he really did.

We were not only father & son, we were friends.

I really REALLY valued our time together. Especially with his premature passing. I value every moment, every item and every thought of our time together.

I really hurt when I think of the time we'll never ever share. Call me selfish, I miss him and I miss what could have been with him and for him.

Sometimes I feel a strong presence of him. It's not uncommon for me to have dreams about Brett, his brother Brandon and their mom, as a little family unit.

I still find it unsettling that he couldn't pick up the phone and call me or his mom, or SOMEBODY, before doing what he did.

Though-out the church service and the graveside service and afterwards at his mom & step dads house, I couldn't believe ALL the people he knew and helped and helped him, some traveled from EVERY WHERE to pay their respects.

I've NEVER known anybody to have that many dedicated friendships throughout their life.

To all of Brett's friends, I barely know just a few of you, through his High School plays and his performances at L.A. Community College.

I'm very impressed by all of you. I want to say "Thank You Very Much" for EVERYTHING and for being life long friends of Brett.

I wish I knew you a little better, I'd love to ask you about your experiences with Brett and to share a story or situation with me about him.

It was natural for Brett to be liked, loved and now remembered.

I can't express in words how much I miss him. I Probably never will.

with eternal love, Dad

09-08-2006 7:46 PM -- By: Courtney Hubbert,  From: Glendora  

We both went to GHS together and both had a love of acting. You will be missed Brett.


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