Born on the first day of Spring, full of built up energy and ready to grow. As a child, Cara was full of life, always getting into something. When she was three, our father, Donald Main passed away unexpectedly. Cara always talked about him and what life might have been like if he had been alive.
Cara grew up in Hewlett, NY. We spent our summers upstate in Monticello. My mother had a summer house in Patio Homes. These were some of the best times of our life. We loved going to penny socials and winning prizes. I can remember Cara, our cousin Jill and myself collecting all kinds of things from the house and playing penny social in our florida room. We loved going in the woods behind the house and catching solimanders. Cara was always the dare devil and I just went along for the ride or if I was too scared, I would run and tell my mother what she was doing., I was always "The Rat." I remember when she put me on the handle bars of her bicycle and road down a really steep blind hill.
During the Winter, we went Ice Skating almost every day. Cara was amazing! She had no fear, she would go to the middle of the rink and do spins and jumps like a professional. She had no training, she just watched and learned. She always had crushes on the Rink guards, we would follow them around, we were eventually known as the Rink Rats.
During those same times, our cousin Sherri would take us out on adventures. We all pack in her car like sardines. We went to Conney Island, Nunlees, Ferry Rides, etc. Sherri always knew how to have fun with us.
My mother would take us to adventureland a lot. Our favorites rides where the swings, the gravitron and the haunted house. We would hold hands on the swings and always get yelled at.
One of our favorite things was when our cousin David would take us into Hewlett Harbor and make believe he was lost. Cara and I had to find our way out.
Cara and I always wanted my mother to get Married again, we would beg her to get us a father. In 1989, my mother met Bob Anderson while upstate. By there second date, we were calling him Dad. They were married within a few months and had my brother, Ryan a year later.
We were so happy to have Bob as a father. He really made us a family and provided structure in our lives. We would go camping and tell ghost stories around the fire. My mother took us to Gettysburg 7 or 8 times. We had so much fun together.
In her late teens, Cara feel in love with LJ Elias. When she was 20, she gave birth to her beautiful daughter, Hailee. Hailee was Caras sunshine. She loved being a mother, she wanted Hailee to have the same experience that she did as a child, camping, ice skating, horseback riding, etc.
For the last 5 years, Cara was with Russel Barber. She wanted to buy a house with him and have a special place for Hailee. She dreamed of having a pool table and having big family parties. She wanted more than anything for her family and friends to be proud of her.
On March 8th, while at Russells house, a fire started in the room where Cara was. Cara did not make it out of the house that day. We will probably never really know what happened but we think it started from a cigarette.
Cara is now at rest with her father.
Cara, I love you so much and you will always be in my heart....Love your little sister...Tina